Wednesday, March 7, 2012

teenagers and sports

i now have a teenage girl living with me. this girl is not my biological offspring but she does have my heart and i have raised her since she was a baby. by all means to me she is my child. my daughter is her older sister. they share the same blood, come from the same mother, and are only a year and a half apart. my brother and i are two years apart. he was the most important person to me growing up. we have drifted apart over the years. he won't talk on the phone. when i visited him in september we talked a little but he didn't want to hang out and do things. it saddens me but that's how life is working out. i don't want these girls to grow apart so i treat this one as my own and will even watch their little sisters from time to time. that and i was raised by someone who wasn't my biological father who still considers me his son is the reason i'm passing on love to these girls. it takes little time and money but the rewards i've gotten are huge.

if you like kids you know what i mean. that is until those girls grow up to be teenagers. oh my god. i knew women were hard to handle but raising a teenage girl, crap. you guys who don't have girls have no idea how much easier it is with boys. they say you have a boy you worry about that one boy. you have a girl you worry about all the boys.

that's not what this post is about. this one moved in with me three weeks ago now. she agreed to my terms about chores before moving in. now when i tell her to do something i get a lot of lip. expected, then she does it, somewhat. she hasn't done a good job cleaning. i can handle that. i wouldn't have done a good job at that age either.

she wanted to go to this school that i live next to. she went there last year and had lots of friends. her family moved sometime last year so her mother would drop them off here and i would take them home so they could finish out the year. she started the new school and had no problems. then dun dun dun! problem. she was getting bullied by the popular girl who wrote her a horrible note threatening her and even stole her ipod.

she seems to be much happier here. she has her own room and can freely move around the place without one of two of her little sisters following her. her mother tells me she seems a bit different. i thought she would as being a middle child she hasn't had much one on one time with her parents. yes, her father is around but like a lot of people he got himself in trouble and he has two other kids with two women, one of whom he lives with. he stretched himself without being prepared and hasn't given this one the time a child requires.

i'm enjoying the company. yes, she can be a bit of a pain in the ass. thats a teenager. her mom questioned my sanity for taking her blaming her for most of her fights with her husband. he won't discipline or she won't listen to him. she goes home three nights a week while i work. on sunday i took my oldest and her younger sister out and this one didn't want to come along. she stayed with her mom and baby sister instead. i hope i'm not confusing anyone too much as i don't really want to name the girls now aside from my oldest, this one, the younger one, and the baby.

now to sports. the girls, the older ones, are both talented athletically. this one was in dance class last year and did really good. she was pulled out because of her bad attitude and grades i believe. i want to put her back in. she want's to go do gymnastics now at the rec center close by. i keep forgetting to take her.

the oldest is a fast runner. i mean fast. she is incredible. i never knew to run on your forefoot until i saw her run. she looks like haile gebrselassie. her arms pump in front with her legs turning like wheels with her feet flying up to her butt. she is amazing to watch. a few years ago she wanted to do track because she lost a race to a boy at school. prior she was the fastest kid, always. this boy did track and beat her. so the following spring i went to go sign her up and she changed her mind.

this winter she tells me her friend wants to sign up and i am extremely excited. she doesn't do it. we talked about it sunday and she said next year. i'm trying to tell her do it now, don't wait. she doesn't live with me so i can't push her into it. her mom doesn't care much if she does or doesn't. i do.

my daughter keeps throwing up excuses about time, money, and whatever else to stop her from doing it. she sounds as negative as her mom. i wish she would live with me so i could try to open her up. i tried to take the girls shopping last year to get some shoes for hiking or running. they didn't like the options i gave them. new balance or merrell. well now merrell is giving away these women's pace glove and i want an extra entry. you too can get one by posting in your blog, if your lame enough to have one, or posting on facebook and by commenting on this blog.

good luck and thanks for reading.

No comments:

Post a Comment